Even in this day and age , a powerful woman still is an anomaly .Whenever I see a woman in senior management positions , I am awed . I truly am . Because , the fact of the matter is , the social mores that women have to conform to have not changed one little bit . You can be the senior Vice President at work ,but you would still be the primary care giver at home . Is this fair . No . But at the moment , at least within my generation I don’t see this changing .Which is why those women are amazing . Out of the ordinary . Because for a woman , the choice comes down to -career or family . And that is such a cruel choice.
The number of really confident , smart , skilled women who have left the workforce after marriage /children is too huge. Mind you , they did not leave it because they did not want to work , they did because they could no longer efficiently juggle the pressures of home and office . And that to me is a tragedy . Its such a waste of potential , of dreams , of aspirations, While graduating from college,that girl would have had hopes to make it big . To give up on that midway , because of biology, is just sad . And what’s sadder is this blunt resignation that there is but no other way .
Of course , I do realize that not everyone wants to work all life . A lot many women are happiest at home . I have no issues with that . What I have problem with, is this invalidation of the power to choose . This assumption that it has to be either this or that . Hell I want it all, I want to be Vice President and wife and mother and daughter. Its difficult and I will probably go crazy before that . But I want to have the right to at least make a decent attempt . And sure , corporate life is really not as rosy as its made out to be . Midway through , I may want to quit. When I am tired of all the dirty politics,and of the sycophancy. I may quit , when I can no longer stifle the urge to scream-“Emperor you have no clothes” . But it will be my choice .
And i do realize I sound naive , I am neither Vice President nor a mother right now and I already have my hands full . But its frustrating , how easily people accept it as inevitable . Hell at the rate woman are dropping out of the workforce , it would soon be called the glass floor not ceiling . And any attempt to modify the above scenario earns you the tag of a feminist .
I wish that I bring up my daughter so that she
- Never plays victim
- Knows her mind and can make decisions
- Respects others and herself .
- Explores the world and is exposed to different world views .
- is strong confident and kind .
- Expects nothing less than the best and gives nothing less than that .
Funny I would wish the same things for my son .
And if that makes me a feminist so be it .