In India , once you are married and/or look like you might be more than 20 yrs older than the 6 year old kid squealing at you , you are immediately called an ‘Aunty’. The first time this happened to me I was in quite a shock . I am quite unlikely to forget the incident as well ,as I was surrounded by my completely irreverent sister who echoed those words in laughing glee all the way home .
Off late , I seem to bear it with a kinda resigned acceptance . After all , I am definitely 20 years older than the kid . And I will have my revenge on all those moms when my kid is born and learns to speak . MUHAHAA (EVIL SMILE).
I have also come to the conclusion that youth is extremely overrated . And being older is in fact extremely liberating for all the below reasons
1.In-Trend -I was never much of a fashionista and I really thought that most of the clothes that were ‘in’ were just plain uncomfortable. And throughout my youth , I used to dress in strictly comfortable clothes. Consequently , I was often admonished for not making an effort to look any good 🙂 .When I see a 15 year old in a mini skirt on a cold winter’s night in Delhi , I have to admit that she does look uber cool with her perfect skin and high heels . Yet when there is a sudden blast of chilly air , I pull my coat closer and stay blissfully warm . I would take comfortably warm over uber cool any day . And now that I am older -I don’t even have to pretend that I care
2. Boy Talk -A significant portion of time in a ‘girls’ gang is taken up over who is dating who and why . Not that I don’t like my share of gossip , but frankly this incessant fixation on relationships used to just irritate the hell out of me when I was younger . Now that I am older , when a girl asks me why the guy she is interested in is so not interested in her , I can tell her straight out that -‘baby that’s because you were busy ignoring him till 2 days back and he is tired of games ‘. You don’t even have to feign sympathy to these types any more 🙂 .
3. Peer Pressure – Lets all accept it , no matter how supremely self confident you were when you were younger , every single one of us did face some amount of peer pressure . And whether you succumbed to it or not , it did cause its fair share of insecurity and bitterness . Now that you are older , you are much more comfortable in your own skin and a lot less susceptible to letting another’s opinion define you .
In conclusion ,once you are past the angst of youth,you can relish and enjoy things that you truly love .There is no point in denying that you are no longer 20 . There is no grace in behaving like a sullen teenager just because people around you put up with it . There is no need for the desperation that I see on a lot of women’s face when confronted with their age . There is no need to be ‘wannabe’ . Just be you . Laugh often . Surround yourself with beautiful things . Do things that you like doing . Find time for your friends . Remember that you don’t have to fit in to any crowd . If you truly fit , the crowd accommodates and enjoys your peculiarities .So just go ahead and embrace your inner aunty 😉